As a teenage girl, especially in today’s society, I think it is very honorable for a young lady to learn the arts of home-making, even if she doesn’t get married. As a young person myself, I struggle a lot with some of the things I’ll be talking about (such as waking up early!). There are many things a girl dedicated to home-making must learn, but I felt these were some of the most important and industrious.
I am taking the time to write this to you girls, because maybe you struggle with some of these. I know there are a couple several that I have a hard time with. You more experienced ladies who have learned important lessons during your journey to womanhood and home-making are more that welcome to share your tips and words of wisdom. And if you are already a home-maker, or find this irrelevant, here’s a post on what I, a single person, have observed about parenting.
#1. Early to Bed, Early to Rise. Good ol’ Ben Franklin must have been reading out of Psalms and Proverbs or something when he penned this. Waking up early in the morning is a very important thing to get in the habit of doing. That is the time you have to spend with the Lord before your day gets busy, hectic, and chaotic. You feel like you have more time in your day. You get more things done, and more free time. Going to bed early helps you get the right amount of sleep you need if you’re going to be waking up earlier.
” I love them that love me; and those that seek me early shall find me.” ~Proverbs 8:17
“O God, thou art my God; early will I seek thee: my soul thirsteth for thee…” ~Psalm 63:1a
#2. Seek His Face. While we are on the subject of seeking God early, I might as well continue along those lines, since they go hand in hand. Whether you become a home-maker or not, this is still essential to every walk of life! The first thing you should do every morning (and last thing every night) should be to drop to your knees and commune with our Creator, Savior, and Friend. Open up His Love Letter to you, and be nourished and refreshed by His Word! It is cold water to a parched soul, food to the starving, and Love to those who hate and are hated! Essentially, It is LIFE!
” When thou saidst, Seek ye my face; my heart said unto thee, Thy face, Lord, will I seek.” ~Psalm 27:8
#3. Attitude Change. Oh boy. I feel like I have a knack for opening these cans of worms. But I must say what is put on my heart. I am saying this for myself, more than anyone. What does your attitude look like? Proud, selfish, bitter, impatient, gloomy? Or have you submitted yourself to the Potter’s hands to made into a vessel of Love, Joy, Patience, Meekness, and Humility? Oh, help me, Lord, where I have fallen so short! Whenever you pray, humbly surrender yourself to the One Who can mold you and make you into what you ought to be! We need to die out to this old flesh daily, and let Christ take control! Tell Him that you want and need to have the worldliness chiseled off of you.
” Hath not the potter power over the clay, of the same lump to make one vessel unto honour, and another unto dishonour?” ~Romans 9:21
“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith.” ~Romans 12:2-3
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.” ~Galatians 5:22-26
#4. Treat Parents and Siblings With Respect. I don’t really have a hard time respecting my parents, but I thought I would just throw that out there. But if you do have an issue with that, let me just encourage you a bit with the Scriptures below. Your parents are there to lead you and guide you to do right and grow well, physically and Spiritually. Sadly, many parents in this world nowadays are not interested in raising their children. I have been blessed beyond measure to have Godly parents, and to know so many families that are conscience of what God would have them to do as true parents. However, if you feel that you haven’t experienced the same kind of blessing as I have, you could be holding on to bitterness and hate because of something wrong that was done to you. If you want to truly love and serve Christ, you have to learn how to forgive. That is what Salvation is based on. Christ says in Mark 11:25-26, “And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.”
What I do have a problem with, a lot of the time, is respecting my siblings. I don’t know if it has to do with me being the oldest sibling (which is no excuse, anyway), or not, but getting along with Miss H and Mr. C can be very trying sometimes (I wonder if it is because of the age difference? I am 7 years older than my sister and 10 years older than my second brother. That is not an excuse, either!). I often find myself walking through the Valley of Humiliation to apologize for a sharp word or harboring selfishness. We need to cherish the moments, seconds, minutes, hours, days, etc., that we have with our siblings. Don’t take them for granted! One day, you will likely be married and busy with a household on your own. Try your hardest to be a friend for your brothers and sisters now, because if you don’t learn to appreciate them while you have such grand opportunities by sharing a house with them every single day, someday you will regret it!
Scriptures on Respecting Parents:
“Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.” ~Exodus 20:12
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.” ~Ephesians 6:1-3
“He that loveth his brother abideth in the light, and there is none occasion of stumbling in him. But he that hateth his brother is in darkness, and walketh in darkness, and knoweth not whither he goeth, because that darkness hath blinded his eyes.” ~1 John 2:10-11
“My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.” ~1 John 3:18
“A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” ~Proverbs 17:17
“A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” ~Proverbs 18:24
#5. Learn to Serve. Serving is an essential part of any Christian life. That is where Eternal Life is found. Having a servant’s heart means you are willing to put yourself out of the way for the benefit of someone else, even if you have to sacrifice something or don’t get any credit. Christ gave His whole life and being for your benefit, even though it meant being cruelly treated, excruciating pain, and a criminal’s death. He didn’t even do anything wrong! Serving also means learning to suffer for Christ’s sake. When you’re treated wrongly or unfairly, yet still take the blame and not seeking revenge, that, my friend, is an excellent quality that is very pleasing to Jesus Christ!
” For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain.” ~Philippians 1:21
“Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men. And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross. Wherefore God also hath highly exalted him, and given him a name which is above every name.” ~Philippians 2:3-9
“Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness’ sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake. Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you.” ~Matthew 5:10-12
“For this is thankworthy, if a man for conscience toward God endure grief, suffering wrongfully. For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God. For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps: Who did no sin, neither was guile found in his mouth: Who, when he was reviled, reviled not again; when he suffered, he threatened not; but committed himself to him that judgeth righteously:” ~1 Peter 2:19-23
#6.Establish a Schedule/Routine. Trust me on this one! Having your life orderly is the best way to go! It is so much less of a hassle to know exactly what you are going to do, and when you are going to do it. I know, sometimes things that aren’t in the plan come up, and you can’t always live on a strict schedule. But for the most part, keeping track of things is so much less stressful! I can’t really embellish on this topic, except to say, that you will just have to do it for yourself to see what I mean. And the Lord knows how much I need to work really hard on this one!
“See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, Redeeming the time, because the days are evil. Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is.” ~Ephesians 5:15-17
#7. A Place for Everything, & Everything in its Place. I love to be organized. Sometimes, my method of this is what I like to euphemize as “Organized Chaos”, because, even though things are messy I know exactly where everything is. But that is not what my room (or yours) is supposed to look like. The other day, I finally got the laundry that was decorating my floor put in its rightful spot. Oh, and you can actually see the top of my dresser! I didn’t go into full detail, such as dusting and renovating my closet, though I want to do that later. But for once, my room looks PRESENTABLE!! *Cough, except for a few of my sister’s stuffed animals and articles of clothing.* But, besides that, I love how spacious my room looks now. I once heard someone on the radio say, that, “Discipline starts by cleaning your room.” So, if you can manage your unruly possessions, I think you have a great start! Your room isn’t the only place you need to keep this practice, though. Someday, you will have a home of your own, and this will come in handy to keep an entire house presentable.
It might also help if you put a bit of “minimalisticism” (one of the many words I make up and add to my dictionary) into your daily life. Get rid of things you don’t need. Chase away the clutterful possessions. Learn to be content with what you have, instead of always wanting more.
“Let all things be done decently and in order.” ~1 Corinthians 14:40
“Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content… I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” ~Philippians 4:11&13
#8. Do Thy Duties With Gusto! We’ve all done it- Procrastination! Why is it, that when we come upon a job (or more bluntly put, a chore), especially one we really dislike, we try to put it off. Ironically, the faster we get it done, the quicker we don’t have to do “the chore(s).” My, isn’t that amazing? There is your bit of profound knowledge for the day. So instead of being lazy, make sure your get-up-and-go doesn’t get up and leave. Get away from distractions, such as books or social media, and wait until your business is complete. It becomes a great motivation to put off those delightful things and quickly, yet efficiently, get what you need to do completed in a timely manner.
“Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might; for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave, whither thou goest.” ~Ecclesiastes 9:10
#9. Learn Home Economics. I am sure that a lot of you industrious young women have learned a useful art. There are many, many things I could elaborate on that are economically important for you to know, but I think these are the top three very necessary handiworks are Childcare, Cooking and Sewing. If you are pretty capable of doing these three things, I am very, very proud of you. I believe that my childcare is pretty good. I should hope it has improved at least over the past almost-two years, with the help of my baby brother! I can pretty much prepare food by following a recipe. But sewing… I can do some feeble hand stitching, but I just can’t seem to grasp a sewing machine. I advise every girl out there to learn everything you can about sewing machines while you are very young. Oh, I can crochet pretty good! I have made hats and scarves, and such. One other thing I should tell you that you need to know, is finances and budgeting. I recommend any consumer math course, if you have the option, because that is stuff you really need to know about. I’m sure that some people have found a true treasure in algebra to calculus, but unfortunately, I haven’t yet found a use for finding the hypotenuse of a right triangle. I mean, you don’t use trigonometry to vacuum the living room! But, hey, if you have learned those things, and can actually use them, more power to you!
“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies… She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.” ~Proverbs 31:10&13
#10. Present Yourself as a Lady.This is one point in which the Lord has greatly blessed me. I never had the desire to not dress modestly. A True Lady will not only live like one, but present herself as one. One HUGE way she does this is by dressing modestly! A lady is fully clothed in apparel that is neither clingy, nor too loose. She takes the way she dresses very seriously.
*Everything beautiful and valuable that God created is covered up and hard to get to. Gold has to be mined, because it is under layers of rock. Pearls have to be dived for, and are protected by hard shells.*
So, my dears girls, cover yourselves up. Dress modestly. Please! A girl who will respect her body, as well as the souls and minds of our brothers in Christ, is worth much more than pearls and gold; her price is far above rubies. If Christ dwells inside of you, then you won’t have the desire to be immodest. And you will gain respect not only from fellow Christians, but even strangers. You are not only dressing like that for you, but for your brothers and sisters in Christ, and our Lord Jesus Himself.
” In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel…” ~1 Tim. 2:9a
“The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God.” ~Deuteronomy 22:5
And those are my Top Ten Tips for the Future Home-Maker! I hope you enjoy, and take them to heart, for each one is quite important. Even if you cannot say that you have each one of the points mentioned above practiced on a regular basis, the Lord is more than willing and able to help you! All you must do is simply trust in Him, and yield everything about you, your life, heart, mind, body, strength possessions, etc.
Give Him All.
And He will mold you and form you into the vessel of honor He has planned for you.
*I am not a fan of his, but I liked this analogy given by Mohammad Ali*
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